It’s time you started giving yourself the credit you deserve because you’re not just a survivor, you’re a thriver
Do you ever have moments when all you want to do is sink to your knees and cry?
Because this wasn’t how your life was meant to go.
This wasn’t what the idealistic teenager that still lives inside of you foresaw your future being.
You weren’t meant to feel lonely. But you do.
It wasn’t meant to take you this long to find love. But it has.
You weren’t supposed to be misunderstood. But you are.
You weren’t supposed to feel this lost and confused. But it’s happening.
It wasn’t meant to feel this hard. But it does.
Sometimes it feels like you’re hanging from a ledge 100 metres above the ground and all you can do is pray that your fingernails are strong enough to keep you from falling.
No, life hasn’t gone how you thought it would.
There’s been chaos and pain and heartbreak and loss. There’s been challenges and trials stacked so close together that you’ve barely had time to catch your breath before the next wave rolled in.
You sometimes wonder how you’ll ever survive all of this.
And yet you always do.
This has been my life for the past 18 months. The breakdown of a long-term relationship, moving homes, multiple bereavements, health issues and every other challenge you could imagine.
And yet I’m still here and so are you.
Because we’re not just survivors. We’re thrivers.
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You’re Stronger Than You Think
If you’re reading this I have a feeling you’re someone who underestimates yourself a lot.
I want you to look back over your life and to take a moment to think about all the challenges and hard times that you’ve overcome. Sometimes when we’re in the middle of something difficult we forget about how far we’ve come. We lose sight of just how resilient and courageous we are.
If you’re walking through darkness right now you need to understand that the light will return and you will get through this.
How do I know that?
Because you are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for. You’ve survived and thrived through 100% of your life so far and that’s a pretty impressive track record.
Whatever you’re facing there isn’t any way to know for sure how it’s all going to turn out but there’s something I want to share with you that might help bring some hope to your situation.
When we’re going through something challenging our mind can be our worst enemy because it has the ability to measure what we’ve lost but it cannot see what we’ll gain.
It took me a year to leave a relationship that wasn’t right for me because all my mind could focus on was that I wouldn’t have my ex-partner in my life any more. It wasn’t able to see six months down the road to the woman who now feels lighter and happier for having left a situation that wasn’t right for her.
No matter what it is you’re facing all you can do in this moment is draw on every ounce of faith that you have inside of you that everything is going to work out exactly as it’s meant to. Because it will. This season that you’re in will pass and just as in every other challenging season of your life you’ll look back later and understand that it had to be that way for you to become who you now are. Which brings me to my next point.
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It’s All Happening For You
I can’t say it ever feels like this at the time but whenever I look back I can see that every struggle I’ve faced wasn’t happening tome but forme.
That’s not much comfort when you’re crying your eyes out on the bathroom floor wondering how much more of life’s challenges you can take but all I can say is that’s its been true for me and I wonder if its been true for you as well?
When I was with my ex-partner I spent the last year of our relationship physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually exhausted. I cried myself to sleep most nights and caught every virus that was going. There was hardly a week when I wasn’t sick. When I finally built up the courage to leave all of that began to fade away. Slowly my energy returned. I began to sleep better. And six months later I’ve not been sick once since I left.
It’s only now when I look back that I can see that the Universe was making life as painful and uncomfortable as it could to get me to do what it wanted me to do.
Often we want something so badly but we’re not willing to let go of what’s no longer working in order to get it because we’re not sure that the thing we want is going to be better than the thing we have.
Crazy, isn’t it? But it’s also completely normal. As human’s we’re wired for safety which means we’re wired to cling to our suffering because it feels familiar. Letting go and leaping into the unfamiliar scares us.
Which is okay. Feeling scared about change isn’t the problem. Allowing that fear to paralyse us and stop us from moving forward in our lives is what’s problematic.
When your intuition is telling you to let go of something and embrace the unknown always trust in that. Have faith that your inner voice knows things that your mind can’t possibly know. Everything that’s happening to you in this very moment is preparing you for the next phase of your life. Trust in that. And more importantly, trust in yourself.
You are stronger, more courageous, and more resilient than you believe yourself to be and you will get through this, just as you’ve got through everything else in your life.
How do I know that?
Because you’re not just a survivor. You’re a thriver. And this time will be no different.