Three Tips on How to Learn to Be Cool With Being Misunderstood


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Some of us aren’t meant to be ‘swim with the crowd, down with the other ducks’ kinda people but that’s okay because you can learn to be cool with being misunderstood.


Let me guess. You clicked on this article because you’re someone that stumps other people, right?

They come away from meeting you scratching their heads because they don’t quite know where to place you.

Maybe you’re not popular but you’re not unpopular either.

Perhaps you don’t follow the crowd but at the same time, you’re not a rebel either.

How do you neatly box up someone that’s a walking contradiction or who doesn’t colour between the lines? How do you define the undefinable? What do you do with people who separate themselves out from the heard or who choose to swim in another direction?

There are some of us who weren’t born to fit in. We’re not down with the other ducks and we’re not meant to be. We’re outliers. We’re people who do our own thing and carve out our own path.

And you know what? That’s okay. Who we are and who we’re working to become is exactly who we were put here to be. We were born different for a reason and the only thing we need to do now is work on being cool with that.

If you’re already there then way to go you! You’re already doing your thing and rocking who you are with confidence so you probably don’t need to keep reading this. Which is awesome because now you have a few extra minutes to go and check out some of the other epic content out there that’s going to give you exactly what you need for where you are in your life right now.

But, if you’re not quite at the point where you’re cool with being misunderstood then keep reading because I want to share three tips that I hope might help get you there.

If you’re still with me then let’s dive straight into tip number one.


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1) Embrace Being Green


You’ve got to love that wise old frog called Kermit. Because it’s true, it ain’t easy being green. But, it’s a hell of a lot better than being beige.

Beige is the colour of 90% of the population so if you want to blend in with the masses then society will welcome you with open arms.

It’s tempting to want to stick with the crowd. All that beige looks so safe and comfortable. But I know that’s not who you are and I know that’s not what you want.

How do I know that? Because you’re still reading this which means you and I both want more than a life of mediocrity.

We want lives filled with vibrant colours, adventures, and meaningful connections. We want to speak our truths with confidence and ease and we want to be able to feel all the feelings that a human life comprises of. We don’t want to numb ourselves or spend our lives on a hamster wheel of routine. We want to live, feel, and experience it all.

If the thought of that life expands you and leaves you feeling excited then there is only one thing you need to do to get it.

You need to embrace being green.

And what exactly does embracing your greenness actually mean I hear you ask? Good question so let’s explore that:

  • Embracing your greenness means you accept that you were not put on this earth to fit in. You were put here to stand out. And there’s a reason for that. It was decided before you were born that you have something unique to offer. Something special that the world needs and you have an obligation to stand in your truth and give that gift to the world.
  • Embracing your greenness means you stop giving a damn about what other people think about you or what you’re doing. People have plenty of flowers that need watering and weeds that need pulling in their own garden so if need be find a polite way of pointing them back in their own direction.
  • Embracing your greenness means you stop feeling you owe people an explanation for who you are.

The sooner we learn to see our greenness as a blessing and not a curse the sooner we’re able to be all that we were put here to be.


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2) Understand That Greatness Has Always Been Misunderstood


Those of us that are misunderstood tend to do strange things.

We like to stay home on Friday nights and read amazing books. We love to write, take long walks in nature, and spend plenty of time in solitude to get our creative juices flowing.

We trade parties for personal growth podcasts, movies for meditation, and big social gatherings for quality time spent engaging in deep and meaningful conversations with a few close friends.

Beige people find the things us greenies like to do somewhat strange. It perplexes them that we might be quite happy going to bed at 9.30 pm on a Saturday night so we can get up early the next day to work on the projects that bring us joy. Or that we might turn down a social engagement to spend time alone.

This is not normal practice in the world we live in. But here’s the thing – most of the epic people in this world were misunderstood at one time or another.

  • Van Gogh sold just one painting during his lifetime
  • J. K. Rowling’s manuscript for Harry Potter was rejected by 12 different publishers
  • Martin Luther King was branded dangerous for his non-violent civil rights movement and for his criticism of the Vietnam War
  • Michelangelo was laughed at and considered a fool for spending four years hanging upside down paint the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel

Mediocre minds are always going to reject people who are more talented and possess greater depth and emotional intelligence than they do.

There are many examples throughout history of great people being misunderstood so you know what? Start considering it a compliment. Follow your intuition no matter what others think.


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3) Find Your People


We are out there. Trust me. But I also understand how hard it can be to find your tribe.

When my relationship ended earlier this year it began a process of huge personal growth and transformation. I made a choice to let go of a lot of people in my life who I no longer had things in common with or whose negative energy was bringing me down. I decided that I would only allow people into my sphere of influence who I truly connect with. People who are kind, loving, encouraging, and supportive. People who inspire me to keep learning so that I can be the best version of myself.

I’m proud of that decision but I also know how lonely it can be. Beige people outnumber green people by 100 to 1. Actually, I have no idea what the statistics are for that but it feels like that number is pretty accurate when we’re out there in the world, doesn’t it?

It can be hard finding our fellow greenies but we have to trust that they’re out there and we have to have faith that making room in our lives in anticipation of their arrival down the line is the right thing to do.

Don’t waste time trying to connect with people who don’t understand the depth of your mind and emotions or who can’t spot a diamond when they see one. You’re special and you deserve to have people in your life who recognise and value that.

Keep searching and don’t settle.


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So there you have it. My top three tips for how to learn to be cool with being misunderstood. I bet you have a ton of your own thoughts, tips, and ideas that would help a lot of people so make sure to leave them in the comments below.

And a big thank you for reading this piece, it is so appreciated.





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